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Motherhood instinct, Born with it, or trained?

Read a very interesting article in Young Parents about how women cope with being a first time mother and foregoing the DINK's(Double Income, No Children) lifestyle. It kinds of reflects how our priorities in life changes when we have our firstborn child and also how being a mother, our characters changed too. However, is it a born with it nature or trained motherhood?

Some mothers are really born with the motherhood instinct. Knows how to handle a child, how to take care and nurture the child in their own ways that best suits the family style. Some mothers are trained as in, throughout the child's life, the mothers learn and knows what are the things that best or bad for the child and through trial and errors, built themselves to be better mothers. I do feel that and I hope it's a view my Olive Tree shares, that I am of the prior category.

I do not say that I never learnt how to take care of children. I do pick up the ropes and skills from my mom who was a baby sitter for 3 children, whereby I was very involve in each of the children's life till they are about to go into adolescent. Throughout, I learnt and also unlearnt certain teachings and handling of children and I totally enjoy being with children. Probably I am not as "approachable" when I was younger but after I worked in BJG, I learnt ways of handling little children as young as 5 months old to 5 years old. How I should communicate with them and also create a bonding with the little ones. It does provide me with a good learning platform and a head start in early childhood education.

Now that I am a mother myself, the motherhood instinct surfaced, and naturally, I am the closest being to BB Seth besides God. I know the signals of him in discomfort, I know the behavioral nature of BB Seth's and what I should do to each call. This is something that a lifetime of learning could not give. It's something that is instantaneously happened and you react. Having been breast feeding BB Seth for 3.5 months, I must totally agree that the bonding created between our mighty champion and me is so unbreakable and intimate. Obviously, to compare to a bottled feed baby, who constantly are being fed by anyone who holds the bottle, needless to say, the motherhood is so much more enjoyable when a mother breast feed. I know, some mothers can't stand the endless babies at breasts, babies only wants mommies. However, I do thoroughly enjoy seeing that I am the nourish provider for BB Seth, being the one that he looks up to when he nurses at my breasts. This is such a wonderful gift our Sweet Daddy has given us to enjoy, the joy the blessedness of motherhood.

The motherhood instinct does include making your baby happy and confident of himself or herself. It's the upbringing. I love to sing to BB Seth. Not that I sing well though. But when I sing to him, it seems that he is the one audience in the world that will wholeheartedly listen to me and admire me. Nothing can compare to the admiration looks and contentment smiles on BB Seth's face. Talk about Superstar. I am BB Seth's superstar for now and am very proud of it.

The touch. The cuddling and holding. It's very different how a mother touches her baby comparing with someone else's. I can do whatever stunts with BB Seth (of course not hurting him in the process). But this touch and support that I give him, will increase his confident to approach something that he deems difficult to achieve at the present stage. For example, he rolls over and prone himself. he kicks when I hold him, he lifted his head and neck when I hold his hands. All these daily touch and support enriches his mental and physical development. That he dares to embark to something more challenging as the day passed. What an accomplishment to see him improves and know that he is able to achieve the "impossible".

It is with such great pleasure and blissfulness to see the mighty champion grows healthily, joyfully and filled with lots of love. Then again, it's not all about my self effort, it's all through Jesus that I am what I am today, a very proud mother of a mighty champion!

Mommy's darling


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